Some studies say that the biggest concerns people have are money, love and health.

I wonder which one of these that people work to maintain the most. We’re all different, but I can’t help but thinking that there are places on just about every other city corner to help us manage or maintain our money or health. As far as relationships, not so much.

We work so hard to improve, perfect, integrate, familiarize ourselves with dance steps, sports, work, and so many other occupations.

Yet there’s quite the drive in so many people to have a spouse or partner that you share love and life with. It’s so very important and lives just wouldn’t be the same without them.

Think about your future, are your greatest moments and hopes shared with a partner?

Love is a very powerful force, and some people put that at the top of their needs and wants.

So why it is that we aren’t given more education and direction in life on this amazing subject?

Marriage, for example, is a very highly-held institution in our land. There are many privileges and responsibilities that come with it. Yet the divorce rate has climbed over the decades and is worse than ever for those who are under 30. It’s come to a point where two consenting adults can marry and divorce without much legal interference.

We see brides on TV who start on the wrong foot by repeatedly saying, “This is my wedding”. This isn’t true, they aren’t going to be at the altar alone, or leave the altar alone. When people feel compelled to withdraw or lash out in response to relationship problems, surely they don’t believe that this will help the relationship in some way.

For many partners, it’s become too easy to go into fight or flight mode, very easy to avoid existing problems and suffer silently or through rage, and especially take ones relationship for granted. But again, we have to consider what kind of compound damage this can do to the relationship.

Relationships are so important to us; though so few people have learned and truly live Relationship Mastery.

Many of us are not exposed to unbiased relationship guidance and hands-on practical actions that lead to healthy relationship habits. In fact, many learn about love relationships during formative conditioning years from unrealistic media and from people who had little guidance and no healthy example.

Learning how to have better relationships is so important; yes in extreme, desperate cases but also in preventative ways as well. They can make all of the difference through our trials and victories in life. They help us to love, be loved and be joined together in this life.

The imprinted learning is something that continues through life and is passed on from generation to generation.

But we do still have a choice about it.

Hopefully, you will consider this and choose to do more for the health of your relationship with your partner and most importantly, will choose to develop lifelong habits.

Part 2 (in the near future, so stay tuned) will examine three areas that can make or break a successful and loving partnership.

Listening to: “Rosa Del Sol” by Gabriel Bauza and then “Sweet Love” by Kaskade