Lack of confidence is one of the main reasons people and are not able to enjoy a successful dating experience.
There are many reasons people have this fear of dating or dread getting back into dating again. People get anxious just talking about it. They dread not feeling like they are in control. Sensitive, introverted or shy people get that intense fear of being put on the spot.
Some people say that they don’t feel good enough about themselves and don’t want to be judged or embarrassed by their date.
Others are too shy to try to be charming and keep the conversation going.
Dating can really be scary and intimidating. You have no idea whether you’ll be able to connect, maybe you’ll do or say something that turns your date off.
The key to a good date is confidence. The secret to actually enjoying your date is making it fun – what a concept!
It’s easy to build confidence when you establish rapport with your date immediately. I use a successful unconscious rapport building program for clients who want to immediately have a good connection with someone they are meeting.
The two basic must-haves for rapport is 1) the other person must feel safe with you, not feeling any threat. This makes them instantly more comfortable and 2) the other person must feel that there is commonality between both of you.
The quicker these two things are established, the better things will flow. It can begin that easily. People take dates too seriously. I believe this is a mistake, and causes stress and waste of time and energy.
One of my biggest concerns about people who are new to dating is whether they are ready for a person who is like-minded and good for them. If confidence is low, or lessons haven’t been learned from previous relationships, the dating process could be disastrous and could lead to damaging and unhealthy relationships. In my work, I’ve helped people “upgrade” themselves as a partner in order to get a partner that is an upgrade to, and more compatible with – anyone they’ve been with before.
Starting out as a professional coach years ago, I have worked with companies, entrepreneurs, families, children, etc. But it turns out that the type of client I have seen the most is the one who wants to have that healthy, loving relationship. I’ve helped many couples in a short amount of time when I was their last resort, I’ve helped people have a better dating experience and use more successful searching strategies. There are keys to this that bring great results!
My recommendation is to work through any of these issues with a dating and relationship coach. It’s best to start this work before you begin to date, even before you create a dating plan (yes those have an advantage too) and continue during the dating process.








Recent Comments
None Found